I woke up with the migraine not gone. It wasn’t at the level 8, but it wasn’t back at the level 1-2 that it’s been for a while, either. Yay. So I just muddled through the day. It was only my 2nd Wednesday working a full day while The Chosen One watched over the children’s after school. I don’t like long days of work with headaches.
Anyhow, work was OK. It ended up not mattering that The Chosen One was home – Ravenclaw went to her friend S’s house (they’re fostering a dog! And they got candy and a movie!), Hufflepuff went to her friend M’s house (it’s a much shorter walk home), and Gryffindor was the only one to come home after school. Since it really is fine for Gryffindor to be home alone, it ended up not mattering that The Chosen One was there.
To add to the migraine, my ex told me he was still shopping for a car, so he couldn’t take the girls. ??? I never can say something’s come up, but this is his 2nd time in 2 weeks. Bah.
Anyhow. I made pizzas. Which meant making sauce. And which meant making crusts. Which meant testing out The Chosen One’s Kitchen Aid mixer. It worked well, but it makes a weird noise. I might have to search something on that.
Anyhow, it was a quiet night. Nothing exciting happened. I did finally realize that I could make a pseudo bedroom/fort for The Bonus Kid in the Library using boxes of books for a wall, so I told him I’d do that for him. I’ve slept on the couch, it’s not ideal. The Ikea mattress in the attic would be better. The police came yesterday to make sure The Bonus Kid was sleeping there, and it’ll look better if he’s not sleeping on the couch.
I hate days like this. I want to just chop my head off.
I got home from work and was a little grouchy. My head didn’t hurt, but I had this weird feeling that is the precursor to some of my migraines. And The Chosen One can see when I’m feeling off. He’s really amazing like that. It can be a little annoying, honestly, but he is very perceptive.
It was a pretty normal Tuesday after work – Ravenclaw went to her friend’s house, Hufflepuff had Gay Straight Alliance and had me drive her and her friend home afterwards, and Gryffindor got a ride home.
I remembered to put dinner in the crockpot, so we had the ribs. They were good. So were the baked beans, the rice, and the artichokes. I was hurting during dinner, but it wasn’t horrible. Hufflepuff and Gryffindor didn’t have a YW activity, so I just got Ravenclaw over to my friend SB’s house for a ride, and I was done with my obligations for the night!
So when I got home I went upstairs and took my meds and went to bed. I love that I’m married and can leave someone else in charge of my kids! Admittedly they’re old enough to take care of themselves, but it was nice to not worry. Hufflepuff (surprise surprise) went upstairs to Skype her friends.
The Chosen One and Gryffindor watched Disney channel for an hour or so while I was curled up in a ball in pain. Yay. I love that I could hear a little bit of sound (I could tell when they were talking, but not what they were saying) but the TV isn’t really audible upstairs. The sound carries really badly from upstairs downstairs, but not vice versa.
When The Bonus Child arrived for the night, he and The Chosen One had a great chat. They both sounded happy! And The Bonus Child wasn’t monosyllabic and grunting! It was a miracle! Apparently he was also giving Ravenclaw the wrong answers on her homework when she got back from Church, but that’s his normal behavior, so I’m happy to hear it. She shouldn’t be asking for help, anyhow.
I’m hoping that there will be more days when The Chosen One and The Bonus Child can bond.
Today was all about the errands. OK, some errands were more important than others, but at least I was productive and got something done!
The Chosen One went to Ikea (lucky dog), but I had to get groceries, so I let him go alone. Plus, I’m always a little woozy the day after a migraine, and it takes me longer to get moving.
I drove out by the mall to go to the British import shop to buy myself a couple of candy bars. And then to Sonic for tater tots and a cherry limeade. Then to Trader Joe’s to stock up.
Then I drove back towards the house (Trader Joe’s is 20-30 minutes away near the mall), went to the regular grocery store, and finally went to Whole Foods for the other things. I love shopping at 3 grocery stores in one day! It’s so fun! I am glad I can easily make 3 shopping lists on my phone and keep track of my spending at each. That is nice. And I’m glad that there’s more prepared foods that are gluten-free so I can feed my children that for dinner when I’m exhausted from shopping all day.
I do feel guilty for using prepared foods, though. We had chicken nuggets, veggie burgers, and then roasted potatoes & roasted green beans. so only 1/2 of the dinner was actually prepared foods. And out of the 7 dinners on the white board, only 2 are prepared foods, though I didn’t grind my own sausages, and I cheated in buying Jennie-O meatballs (oh, how happy it makes me that I can buy those, though! I don’t love making meatballs). I’m going to have to work on this so that even less is prepared foods, as I’m feeling like I’ve been massively slacking. I’ve been buying bread and crackers! Bah.
The menu for the next couple weeks (I only cook 4 nights a week, the younger girls are with their dad 3 nights a week, and I figure we can fend for ourselves/eat leftovers those nights):
Spaghetti and meatballs
Ravioli and sausages
Tamales & Taquitos
Crock pot ribs and beans
Nuggets & veggie burgers
Oh, and after grocery shopping I was proud of myself – I put everything away (I used to procrastinate that before we had the awesomesauce pantry), and I cleaned out all the old leftovers from the fridge and ran the dishwasher.
A very productive day. I even did a couple loads of laundry. Now I can bake tomorrow after church without feeling like I’ve been totally lazy all weekend.
Now to look over the lesson for tomorrow and go to sleep. I forgot I was teaching! Oops!
(Oh, I also had a wonderful talk today with J about B staying here. It was lovely. I’ve missed her)
So, to make up for skipping out on Wednesday, I had to work a full day on Thursday. It was a long day. My boss had had a rotten day the day before (and forgot I was out, oops), so he was grouchy.
On the plus side, I got a lot done.
On the minus side, I missed my family. Ravenclaw hadn’t been with us on Wednesday, and then she left for a sleepover at her friend’s house before I got home last night, so I barely saw her. She got home safely this morning, but it was after I left for work. I got home just a little before The Chosen One, but just after we got home their father picked Ravenclaw and Gryffindor up.
I totally vegged out and watched a bazillion episodes of Rehab Addict. It’s probably not healthy to watch the same show from 6pm-10pm. Just as a theory. But it was fascinating. I now have the TiVo set up to record it, but we don’t get the DiY channel, only HGTV, so we can’t watch it as often. Feh. No DiY and no BYUtv. No Cooking Channel, either.
Ravenclaw likes that kind of show, so she watched an episode with me. It was fun.
I don’t foresee this changing any time soon. I had a long day at work and then came home to a busy time before the girls left with their dad, then more busy-ness while The Chosen One and I tried to finish putting together the pantry. But when we put the doors on the drawers won’t open. Oops!
Today I’m feeling very grateful for my relative good health and that of my girls.
I’m also feeling strong promptings to pray for my brother & sister-in-law and their baby today. I hope everything is ok with them.
In other news I’m tired.
Hufflepuff not speaking until the end of school went well. She had a rainbow ribbon and a rainbow bracelet that says something about everyone having a voice. One boy tried to hassle her and make her talk. He did it right in front of a teacher and got sent straight to the office! I’m very impressed with her school right now. And with her. I hope she keeps learning to advocate for herself in general, but this was one specific type of advocacy that is important to her, and I’m proud of her for that.
We watched HGTV’s smart house show tonight. So cool! There are definitely things we want to integrate into our house, but other things that we didn’t like. The rooms felt really small, and I don’t understand using white upholstery on chairs in the dining room. Hunh? And they said people don’t use dining rooms. Really? Everyone I know does. But, I know Mormons. And people who cook all the time. Maybe that’s the difference?
It also annoyed me that there was a TV in every room. Including the shower. WTF? Can’t we have screen-free zones?
So tired now. Must sleep. And we kept The Chosen One up past his bedtime. Oops.
Tomorrow is Gryffindor’s scholarship interview. Ravenclaw is going to a friend’s house because The Chosen One is at the office, and she’d rather not be home alone with Hufflepuff.
I love that my husband (who is awesome) could be the Adult in Charge while I was gone, and I could be sure that he would have the girls do what I had asked. Unlike when I left Hufflepuff in charge and her sisters were up watching TV at 10pm when I came home. Ugh. I really appreciated that The Chosen One had Gryffindor finishing her shower and Ravenclaw doing her reading homework when I got in the door. Maybe eventually they’ll go to sleep on their own while I’m gone so I can stay later.
Not much happening otherwise. Headache has been hurting since I left book club, so I just barely got lunches packed and me into bed and typing this. Must sleep it off.
And another day of work and life passes. Today was much quieter than last Tuesday, and felt much more fulfilling, but there’s still a sense of drudgery with work. And with they girls’ school. Blah. It also felt weird that The Chosen One had left for work before I woke up. And I woke up at 6:15. Disconcerting.
After getting everyone to school in the rain (and not finding my good rain coat), work went fine. I picked up Ravenclaw and her friend C from school today because I had promised to pick up Hufflepuff. And somehow I forgot that it was Tuesday so she had a meeting after school. Oops!
Anyhow, Ravenclaw had fun showing off the house to C (whose sister has been here a couple times but she hadn’t). They went outside to play for a while and then rode bikes around. It’s so nice to live in a house with a yard (!!) and on a quiet street where they could just ride around without me worrying!
I made a yummy lentil soup while they rode bikes and played. I was the only one to eat it (though I did give some to our friend M when she came to pick up the girls). The rest of the meal I made was scarfed down, it was just the lentil soup that was ignored. Ah well, I had expected it.
I got about 40% of my book club book read tonight while the girls were at their church activities. It meant I didn’t get some other things done, but there will always be more to do.
The Chosen One and I had a nice time watching half of an Addams Family episode. I look forward to watching the rest of it! Maybe after the girls go with their dad tomorrow… It was frustrating that they came home from church in the middle of the episode! But homework does need to take precedence.
Now for me to get back to the book I don’t like and then sleep. Sleep good.
It was so nice to wake up in our house with my husband, knowing that he was working from home that day. It’s wonderful that he can work from home three days a week! So grateful for that!
Meanwhile, after dropping the girls off at school I came back to get my stuff packed up and the trash & recycling put up (at the old house trash & recycling were picked up on Tuesday, I’m still not used to having it picked up on Mondays). And then I went to Hufflepuff’s IEP meeting.
Her father was there. Which surprised me. It was a lot of fun to sit there while she doesn’t want to talk to him, but he keeps trying to talk to her. I was telling her to be polite, but that’s as good as she could do. I wanted to hit him when he said he wanted her in all “normal” classes. Ugh. And then also insisting that she should be taking Spanish.
On the plus side, we basically ignored him, and I got what Hufflepuff and I wanted. She’ll be mainstreamed for next year in a College Prep English class, with curriculum support periods and other supports while she’s in the non-Language Based English class. Here’s hoping it goes well.
Work went well.
After work I came home and was doing laundry, then came up the stairs from the basement laundry area. When I got to the top of the stairs Yuki (the cat) raced up the stairs, passed me, and jumped into the front window. Only a moment later Ravenclaw and her friend passed the window! Wow! That was freaky! I’ll admit that I think my cat is awesome and part dog (she regularly follows me from room to room and greets me at the door), but this was very cool.
Then we had an orthodontist appointment for the older 2. Yay. They are grouchy. I bought them off with McDonalds shakes and Happy Meal toys (it’s still MLP time) while I went grocery shopping for soft foods.
I was irritable when we got home – some noise that Ravenclaw was playing in the car made my headache peak badly. Ow.
We did have FHE tonight, though. We did a quick song, prayer, and chat about treating other people’s property nicely, and then played Family Fluxx. I love that game! I need to get more versions, though. Hufflepuff tantrummed and left the game, but I made her come back. Of course she had “things to do”, but some things in our family are non-negotiable, and FHE and family meals are two of them.
I got some nice cuddle time with my husband before finishing packing lunches and getting everything ready for tomorrow. Now to sleep, and read a bit more of the book for book club which I am not loving. Maybe my attitude will change as I read more.