The new normal

For over 4 years I would take the bus and the train to The Chosen One’s house on Fridays after the girls went to their dad’s house.

Now I stay home and The Chosen One comes home from work to our house.

And, now Hufflepuff stays home with me rather than going to her dad’s house.

It’s something new to get used to.

I was used to the hour and a half of alone time on the bus/train with books and podcasts to decompress.

The Chosen One was used to time alone in his house to decompress.

Now he has an hour’s commute rather than a 10 minute commute.

It’s the new normal.

Ta Da!

The Little Purple House has been vacated! All of our stuff is out. And I’ve done a basic cleaning. Phew! I totally crashed at the end of the day.

I listed a table and a loft bed on Craigslist. Haven’t heard anything about the table but 2 people emailed me about the bed. Here’s hoping someone takes it. If not, I’ll list it for free this weekend.

In other news, Hufflepuff and Ravenclaw had the MCAS long composition today, and they came home grouchy. Ravenclaw brought a friend home and was pretty good until the friend left. Hufflepuff was a bear the whole afternoon and evening.

I’m exhausted. I crashed around 7 tonight, after pushing myself hard for a few weeks. I can’t do any more. Blerg. Now to put together Ikea stuff, buy Hufflepuff’s bed in a bag, and and and and … the list never ends.

On the plus side, now The Chosen One really understands why I’m tired every weekend! I go back to work tomorrow, and it sounds relaxing.

Out with the old…

Today was all about clearing out the old to make room for the new. We got 420lbs of trash from the old house dumped at the dump. And then we kept cleaning. I think we only have 3 more trash bags for trash day tomorrow, at least. Plus a goodly amount of recycling.

Gryffindor complained that her sisters had each gotten a day off school to help pack, but she hadn’t. So, she got a day off school to clean. I don’t quite understand her desire to do this – I’d have happily gone to school to avoid this! But, she rocks and she worked her butt off today helping me clear out the old house.

We put the mattress & box spring, little dresser, and antique hoosier on Freecycle. The first two have been picked up, and the final one will be picked up tomorrow afternoon. Then someone was looking for chairs, so I am dumping 2 mismatched dining room chairs tomorrow morning, too. I posted the loft beds and dining room table on Craigslist, and here’s hoping I can get someone to buy them this week. If not, they’re going on Freecycle.

I only have a few things left to do at the old house, and then we’re done! A few things to cart away, and then a few things to clean, a decal to take down, and then I will bid a fond farewell. I’ll miss that house! I loved living there. It’s in a great location, has a great feel to it, and worked really well for our family most of the time. It will always have a special place in my heart.

On the other hand, It’s really nice to have the extra space in the new house!!! Sound carries more here, though, I think.

We had a good St. Patrick’s day today, too. Hufflepuff and Ravenclaw wore shamrock decorations, and everyone wore green. I even got a couple nice shamrock/St. Pat’s lunches made.

And now it’s late and I’m exhausted. Tomorrow should be easier. I hope.

Sunday, Stressful Sunday

I was proud of myself for getting the girls and myself to church today. OK, so Ravenclaw’s shoes were too small, but we all had church clothes on and got there at the appropriate time. We were even a couple minutes early and got our favorite pew! I had swapped assignments with my co-teacher so she was teaching this week and I’ll teach next week, I knew I couldn’t pull together a lesson with the move and everything.

During church I got a text from my cousin offering to help us this afternoon. Given that we have a bazillion things to put together (thank you Ikea), I accepted the help.

My cousins and their kids put together the bookshelf for Ravenclaw and Gryffindor, 2 shelves we’re putting up for their American Girl dolls, 2 nightstands, and most of Gryffindor’s bed. We need to build the 3 drawers that go inside her bed, but she is able to sleep on it tonight.

Meanwhile, The Chosen One and I had a major test of our marriage by putting together something from Ikea. We definitely approach things differently, and he is slower than I am. I could tell that we both frustrated each other at times, but we got it done. This was the first of 2 wardrobes. The second one should go quicker. We also have to put together the pantry, but that has so many pieces I wanted to attack the wardrobe first. That was a good choice. The wardrobe was stressful enough.

The Chosen One, upon seeing me totally freak out with stress and have another anxiety attack where I felt like I couldn’t breathe, took pity on me and ordered us take out. As much as I don’t like to have restaurant food on the Sabbath, and I wouldn’t order it myself, I was not turning it down when he ordered it! There was much rejoicing! It was good, filling food, and now Hufflepuff and Ravenclaw have leftovers for their thermoses tomorrow.

Someday I’d like to go to bed at the same time as my husband. And cuddle before we pass out. But for now, I’m happy to be in the same house and the same bed.

Sleeping in my house with my husband and daughters

That’s my joy. There was a lot of activity today (we moved the furniture and the boxes in 2 hours!), a lot of decisions, some unpacking, some cleaning, and a lot of people helping. I’m intensely grateful for all the wonderful people in my life who helped. And those who were there in spirit. I was anxious and overwhelmed for much of the day, but I got through it. And (with the exception of our TV electronics and some things here and there) we are moved in completely.

But now, laying in my bed with my husband while my daughters sleep nearby, I’m at peace. I was so happy to hear them chatting while I was taking my shower. I’m so happy to have everyone I love in the same house together. It’s lovely.

I’m also exhausted.

Ravenclaw’s final play was tonight! She was the tortoise in Aesop’s Musical Foibles. She did a great job, and totally hammed it up. She had 15-20 lines, was identified in the program, and did an awesome job. I’m really proud of her! Her friend P played Zeus, and was fabulous, too. It’s so great to see these kids coming out of their shells and really putting on a show. Absolutely the best play we’ve seen at this school, and we’ve seen 3 other plays because of the older girls.

Tomorrow the younger 2 have church with me, and Hufflepuff has her coming of age program at her church, and then we need to do some cleaning at the old house and putting together of Ikea stuff at our home.

Our home. That makes me so happy! *sigh* Love it. The Chosen One isn’t the only sappy person in our family, even though sometimes it seems like it. :)

Oh, and true to form, Hufflepuff already had 3 friends over. They were helpful (which was awesome), but she managed to have 3 friends over within hours of moving. I’m impressed.

I love this house! And now I need to pass out from exhaustion. I’m amazed I made it this far!


I’d say that at least 95% of our house is packed. But there are some things left.

There are walls and walls of boxes. And I’m just so, so tired right now.

The girls were more helpful than one would assume, but less helpful than I would have wished.

I never want to move again, unless I can hire movers to pack.

I need sleep. People are coming in 8 hours to help me move, and I think I have enough done that we can be successful. We’ll definitely have to come back to get things here and there and to clean, but at least we’ll have most of it done.

I still wish I had gotten everything done. I have to give up now, though – I’m out of boxes and energy.

I had an anxiety attack today. Totally freaked out the older girls, who were home. ugh. It felt like I was unable to breathe and I was having chest pains. Freaked me out, too. I relaxed and rested for 30 minutes, then I was ok to keep going.

My boss forgot to pay me. Whoops! I’ll see if he’s at work tomorrow afternoon, otherwise I guess I’ll stop in on Monday.

I can’t wait to have most of the stuff moved and be able to take a nice shower to wash off the moving crud and the dust and debris.

I’m kinda sad about my last night in my little purple house, but I’m excited to start living together as a family! Only a month and a half after the wedding! :)

Ravenclaw had her first performance tonight where she was a character with lines. I’m looking forward to seeing her tomorrow night! And not only because that means I will have finished the big push for the move!

Even more boxes

I’m creating a wall, I think. A wall of boxes. The dining room table is covered in them. And it’s spreading into the living room. We’ve almost emptied the kitchen, and a good part of the living room is emptied. The dining room is emptied. The girls’ room is mostly packed up. My room needs some work, but there’s nothing on my shelves any more. It’s a long process, though.

Today I had work, and I got some stuff done. But, because my boss is awesome, he told me that I shouldn’t come in until 1:30, and he might not need me at all. Yay!

Tomorrow is Ravenclaw’s first play, and she’s talked Hufflepuff into doing her make up for the show. I get to do hair. :) I’m looking forward to seeing her on Saturday night!

I talked to the girls’ father, and he has agreed to let Gryffindor go to the Catholic school if I can finagle the finances. He had been refusing, so this is a huge break. I’ll call them up tomorrow to talk further.

I had forgotten about Ravenclaw’s half day today, and got very lucky. Her friend K’s mom agreed to pick her up. They live kinda near my work, so I thought they would just drop Ravenclaw off at my office. Instead they took her to lunch at 5 Guys and then had her play until 5! I got a quick chat in with her, and it looks like Hufflepuff might get a babysitting gig for K while the mom is working. The parents are a radio DJ and a chef, so no 9-5 hours there! Ugh. I just have to worry about Thursdays with Ravenclaw, as I work a full day and she no longer has play practice.

I’ve dropped a lot of balls due to this move, and I’m trying to pick them up and keep juggling. Why doesn’t the world just pause while I try to get it all together? Why do things have to happen this week? Blerg. I really need a pause button on my life.

The Chosen One and I put out the welcome mat today at the new house. Literally – we put out the foot scraping door mat and the blue rug for the mudroom. He got the rugs steam cleaned upstairs, so tomorrow we’ll bring up Hufflepuff’s mattress. Gryffindor’s mattress came rolled up, so we unrolled that upstairs today to let it re-puff. Their rug is also unrolled and looking cute. I’m going to need to put together their nightstands and Gryffindor’s bed, as well as having to put together everything else. Oh, and apparently Hufflepuff needs sheets. I forgot that I was moving her up a size of bed, which means that I need to get her new sheets. Oops.

It’s been a long day. I’m exhausted. And there’s so much left to do! Gah! It makes me think of a Calvin and Hobbes comic where the dad tucks Calvin into bed and says, “another busy day tomorrow!” and Calvin freaks out. That’s about how I feel. It’ll be OK though. It’ll all work out.

Sunday Sunday Sunday

I moved my closet today. And I managed to move over one of the little benches that will sit in front of the windows in the mudroom. It looks good there.

We got some packing done, but I had a lot of laundry and other stuff to get done. Tomorrow I’ll be scraping paint off the floor (yay) after I drop the girls at school. And then back to more packing.

It was nice to go to church today and have some of the menfolk tell me they were looking forward to helping me move next weekend. I’m so grateful. And two people offered to help me pack. It’s crazy.

It was also nice to go to church because I wasn’t teaching, so I could just listen to the lessons. Plus I managed to talk to my co-teacher and swap lessons with her so I don’t teach next week right after moving. I already have to go to Ravenclaw’s play on Saturday evening, I don’t want to have to prep for teaching, too.

This is going to be a long week. But, at least I have a bed. The Chosen One is staying at the house without his mattress, and the aerobed leaks, so he has nothing. :( I’m hoping we can get his mattress over there soon. Or something.

I do love having him in town, though! :) It’s nice to see him. Can’t wait to actually live together! :)

Now I’m exhausted, and the website is having problems, so I’ll have to post this tomorrow. I wanted to type it tonight, though, so I don’t lose my momentum of writing every day.


7 hours at Ikea. 10:30am-5:30pm. That’s a lot.

But, we found most of what we needed. We found the wardrobe and the pantry we wanted, and got them fitted out exactly the way we wanted them.

We also found a bed for Gryffindor, a box spring and mattress for Hufflepuff, and a bunch of other stuff. Lamps, clothes hangers, clips for bags, shelves, night stands, bookshelves for the girls’ rooms, and a gnome puppet. And more. Including lingonberry jam. :)

I’m exhausted from all the walking around. I can’t think very well.

We did have a nice first night in the new house, though! Despite the air mattress deflating as we slept… And now The Chosen One is sleeping at the new house on Hufflepuff’s mattress while she sleeps on the couch here for a night. We’ll go get her mattress tomorrow.

I’m going to pass out soon. I’m feeling intensely grateful for The Chosen One’s willingness to drive us and help out with everything. And for my kids being helpful much of the time. I only wanted to ditch Hufflepuff a few times. I got irritable, got better when I ate, and then got irritable again at the end.

Good night.

Rachel’s Big Adventure


Today I hung up all the clothes that have been on my chair. And started packing summer clothes and t-shirts. My clothes need to all go into boxes/bags because they will be moved into The Chosen One’s dresser. My dresser will go to Hufflepuff, hers will go to Gryffindor, and hers will go to Ravenclaw. Ravenclaw’s beautiful, hand-painted dresser will have to go somewhere else, or to someone else. *sigh* It’s hard when they outgrow things!

I also packed up the rest of the books in my room. The book at the right, “Rachel’s Big Adventure” was written for me by my aunt. Auntie M wrote this book before my parents took me to visit her in NYC. She wrote all about the big city and apartment buildings, her dog, etc. My mom remembers reading it to me over and over before the trip. I just remember always having it. And every big change I’ve gone through since I’ve called Rachel’s Big Adventure.

photo-25Tonight is our first night staying in the new house! The Chosen One and I are sleeping on an air mattress, and Hufflepuff is staying on her mattress, which is a foam one, so we just ran it over here from the old house. Big excitement! I asked Gryffindor and Ravenclaw if they minded that we were staying there without them, and they looked at me like I was nuts. “We’re staying in warm comfy beds!” they replied. They didn’t really want to camp out. I think it’s pretty awesome to spend our first night here, and I’m glad we’re doing it together. I do wish the girls were here, but we’ll all be here together soon enough!

Tonight, sleep. Tomorrow am – boxes from the grocery store. Then off to Ikea! Big excitement!