Anger and Joy

ConversationToday had some highs and lows. And a boatload of snow. We didn’t have a snow day, but after school activities were cancelled due to the snow. My mom awesomely saved me by picking up my kids so I could finish working. Gryffindor was home because the private school had a snow day, which we found out on our way there. Whoops!

Today’s #cy365 prompt was conversation, so I tipped over our conversation hearts and took a picture of it. I liked the pic.

Work was work. No big stories there. But it was my full day. I stupidly wore flats rather than boots and ended up with very wet and cold feet after clearing off my car. Thankfully the big snow stopped at 3, and I left at 4:30.

photo 2I got home to find Hufflepuff playing Minecraft and having a Skype call with her friends. And the front steps and sidewalk weren’t shoveled. So I shipped her off to shovel while I tried to unfreeze my feet. I’ll admit that I came home feeling very irritable, but finding her sitting wasting time made me angry. She should’ve shoveled the steps before I came home (her sisters went with their dad early).

My book club debated having the meeting tonight or not because of the snow, but we ended up having it. It was lovely – it was 4 of us for a couple hours, and then a 5th person came. A lively discussion about a wonderful book, The Night Circus, which was wonderful. Highly recommended.

photo 3At the end of book club they presented me with this basket as a wedding gift! It was wonderful! Definitely a Harry Potter theme, for some odd reason, plus chocolate from my favorite chocolate place! They seriously know me! It’s so incredibly sweet! Love my book club – it’s the bestest book club ever, and I’m so glad I was able to get there tonight!

And then I got a call on my way home from Ravenclaw asking when I would be home (she and Gryffindor had been with their dad until 9pm). And that’s when I found out that the ONE THING I asked Hufflepuff to do she neglected to do. I asked her to have her sisters get into their jammies and get in bed to read. Did she do that? Nope. They were watching TV until after 10pm!  Grrrr! She had the gall to be asleep when I got home, but her younger sisters were not at all. So I woke her up to speak sharply to her. I’m incredibly disappointed. And it really makes me not want to do nice things for her. She’s going to Maine to ski tomorrow, and I’m supposed to get her long johns, warm socks, and warm gloves. So not what I want to be doing tomorrow after tonight. Bah.

Finally, to leave on a high note, I’ll leave you with Gryffindor’s homework assignment – she had to write a poem about the Holocaust. She chose free verse. A limerick or haiku would probably be inappropriate.

DESTINY

The young,

The old,

Scraps of who they were,

About to die.

Our demise draws nearer,

Our destiny is claimed.

Just another shoe in the mountains.

 

 

 


Another day

photo-19Today started out lovely. It was so nice to wake up next to my husband! (wow, that feels weird to say) :) And then to get ready for work like a normal couple.

Sadly, because the house isn’t finished, I had to leave to go on the train to work while he stayed home to get ready for his work. And then after work I went to my house and he stayed at his. :( Have we done this for almost 5 years? Yes. Is it somehow different today? Yes. I didn’t feel any different after the wedding, but I do feel different now. Lots of “wish you were here” texts.

Today’s #cy365 prompt was soft. They suggested using a macro lens on flowers, and so this is a pic of some of the flowers from the wedding. I picked up cake, flowers, and a beautiful print from my parents when we stopped by their house this afternoon. The flowers feel very springy in comparison to the snow that fell today.

I also had a bad headache this afternoon and was grouchy and snippy when the girls were annoying. I also fell asleep by accident. Whoops. Dinner was a bit later than expected.

Gryffindor got into one of the two schools she had applied to! We were very excited by the acceptance email! Now to see about money and scholarships and financial aid. It would be a good fit for her. She has a 2 day shadowing at the other school coming up next week, too.

Gryffindor had more homework than she thought she had, so she collapsed in tears, and now after spending last night curled up with my husband (loving that word!) I’ve got a 13yo curled up in my bed tonight. It’s a radically different night.

I totally get the desire for a honeymoon now. I want to shut everyone else out. Feh.


Surprise!

KissWe had planned to get married on 4/12, exactly a year after we got engaged during our trip to Universal Studios, The Wizarding World of Harry Potter.

Well, surprise! We got married today! My parents and their spouses were there, my brother and sister-in-law, and my three girls. My stepdad officiated. We held it in the living room (what will become the library) in the new house, right in front of the fireplace. It was short (we still have no heat in the new house), but sweet and just right.

We had 3 readings. First, Hufflepuff read from Shakespeare’s Sonnet 116:

Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O no! it is an ever-fixed mark
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;Bouquet
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth’s unknown, although his height be taken.
Love’s not Time’s fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle’s compass come:
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.

Then Gryffindor read from Harry Potter and The Order of the Phoenix, by JK Rowling:

“There is a room in the Department of Mysteries,” interrupted Dumbledore, “that is kept locked at all times. It contains a force that is at once more wonderful and more terrible than death, than human intelligence, than forces of nature. It is also, perhaps, the most mysterious of the many subjects for study that reside there. It is the power held within that room that you possess in such quantities and which Voldemort has not at all.” Love. “In the end, it mattered not that you could not close your mind. It was your heart that saved you.”
Man and Wife
“Working hard is important, but there’s something else that’s even more important: believing in yourself and each other. Look at it this way: every great witch, wizard, and wizarding family in history has started out as nothing more than we are now. If they can do it, why not us?”

Finally, Ravenclaw read from 1st Corinthians 13:

Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never ends.

Ring of petalsWe didn’t have our rings, so we’ll exchange those at the summer party we’ll have to celebrate the marriage and the housewarming together. We did make a ring out of rose petals, and stood inside it as we were pronounced man and wife. The girls joined us inside the ring, too, and we were proclaimed a family.

What was cool is that since my stepdad officiated, he was thinking about step-parenting, and we had special vows about step-parenting and had words including the girls in the ceremony. It was very thoughtful and sweet. I really liked it.

My mom did my flowers, and Hufflepuff was with her, describing my dress (my mom hadn’t seen it). Hufflepuff and my mom also made 2 lasagnas (gluten-free and gluten) and sausages and salad, and the cake. We had a lovely dinner at my mom’s house, and my dad and stepmom appeared to feel fully included and welcomed. They even brought the champagne and the sparkling cider. Out of everyone there, only 3 people drank the champagne. We’re definitely a sparkling cider family!

Cake

I’m intensely grateful for finding the perfect guy for me. I’m intensely grateful I found a guy who loves my daughters as if they were his own, someone Hufflepuff described as “my new dad”. The Chosen One was the perfect choice for me, the perfect person to be my co-parent and my support system during the rest of the time needed to finish raising these girls. We’re both geeky, we have similar interests (though he’s actually paying attention to the Super Bowl as I type this, and he is interested in sports), and we both value family time. He’s not a Mormon, but he is supportive of the girls and me attending church. If nothing else, it gives him 4 hours of alone time every Sunday morning!

I’m very lucky. Or, as my Nana R used to say, “I’m not lucky, I’m blessed.” She seemed to like him when she met him. I just wish my Nana M had met him. When she found out that he had studied Italian she decided he was probably good enough for me. :)


It all went uphill from there

Today didn’t have an auspicious start, but it got better. Ravenclaw awoke with a fever and feeling sick, and I woke up to a headache that rated a 7 on a 1-10 scale. I tried the new “rescue med” for when the headache “peaks” (as opposed to the low grade headache that ‘s always there), and had some side effects. Basically, you feel like crap for an hour, but then the headache gets much better.

Hufflepuff had 2 exams today, and she felt good about both. Well, photography’s exam was just printing photos, but her other exam went well. She has 2 more on Monday, and then she’s done with midterms.

ArielGryffindor had play practice today, and then her first performance was tonight. I wish I had been there to see her! I’ll be there tomorrow night, at her first performance where she has lines. The play is double cast, so she is in the chorus for 2 performances and in the speaking cast for 2 performances. She’ll have a good audience for her two shows with lines!

Gryffindor’s lunch today included a painted Ariel on cheese and some fishes and musical notes. It was a pretty cool bento box lunch, if I do say so myself. A perfect lunch to cheer her on in her Little Mermaid performance.

I was able to go to the grocery store alone today, which is always nice. I also came home to Hufflepuff’s friend P helping to clean and pack our living room. She asked if it was ok, um, yes! Feel free! She’s willing to help clean and pack in exchange for baked goods. Sounds good to me!

I was planning to go to the Temple, which didn’t work out, but we’ll go next week. I’m very much looking forward to it. This week is possibly the last one staying at the apartment of The Chosen One. Soon we’ll all be in the same town, and then in the same house! Squee!

Finally, I’ve found 2 of the 3 readings I’d like to do at the wedding – Hufflepuff reading Shakespeare’s 116th sonnet, Gryffindor reading Harry Potter (haven’t found that quote yet) and Ravenclaw reading 1st Corinthians 13, but not the King James version. In other versions the word Love is used in place of Charity. I just like the sentiment of the reading.

And now sleep – an hour earlier than usual! Yay!